Thursday, June 29, 2006

Iam still feeling somehow anytime i looked at the ring on my second finger and everybody in the office comments on it but iam sure they are wondering why iam wearing a ring on that particular finger without inviting anybody for the big do-wedding. When i told my mom about it,she was just like why is he doing that to you-If he so much love you,then he should make an honourable woman out of you instead of the hide and seek game.She can not just understand the whole set up as she is of the old school and being somebody mistress is not a kind of life she is favourable dispose to but i have told her i have the right as an adult to live as i like and ready to face the consequences of my actions.She gave me proper upbringing and good education but all that could not get me a man and girls who are wild are having a ball.Every lady want to have a man of her own but if i can not get that and the society is not making it easier and I get a chance to get happiness from somebody who happened to have a wife and mind you ,we are in Africa where polygamy is a normal way of life-what should i do?.Mummy should just pray i get just two kids from the union and give me the necessary support and life continues-i do not intend to contest anything with the wife and will forever respect her.

Wednesday, June 28, 2006

I got back yesterday evening from two days seminar in Abuja and my dear was at the Airport to pick me up and trying to be ever nice to me.He was all over me and behaving like a teenager falling in love for the first time and i was like maybe his madam is giving him tough time at home and just want to ease off the tension with me.He was just looking at me and smiling and i kept wondering what could be responsible.Immediate we entered the house,he just lifted me up and carried me to the room and you can imagine what happened.We later refreshen up and he decided we should go out for dinner at a newly opened Chinese cuisine in Lekki,It all look as if iam in a truance-imagine all the pampering and not conscious of time as usual.Iprayed silently for more days like this when i will be the only centre of his attraction-Amen.

He requested for exclusive table and special menu of the day and bottle of champagne to go with it and that he want it really chilled.At that point,i knew something is happening in his life and wish he was going to ask me to marry him.He is really putting me on suspense and just smiling and humming a song.We chatted generally and asked me a lot of questions on my job and what next iam planning to do after certain period of my life and talk about his plans for his business and his other course of actions.I could not just understand what all the future forecast has to do with our lives.All of a sudden,he just asked me what i feel about him and what do i want from the relationship and to what extent iam committed to him and i was just blinking and couldnt say anything.He now brought out a diamond ring and ask for my second finger and slipped it in with a kiss. I was just confused and did know what to make out of show.He said the ring is to show his commitment to me though we might not be legally married but we belong together and will do anything to proctect me and that between us and God as witness-Iam his wife.

Friday, June 23, 2006

He got to my house early and I initially do ladies shakara and later listen to his cock and bull stories.He claimed he was suppose to go Abuja but couldnt get to Airport on time and could not get a seat,so he decided to see some other people at the street where i saw his car and that he followed one of his expatriate friend to her house as they are close and since he too knows her as one of their contractor(laugh) and he just needed to while away sometime before i finish my dinner to surprise me at home-imagine that kind of lies and he could not come to my end again because his mrs called that one of his kids had an accident in school which landed him in hospital.He had to tell her that he couldnt go to Abuja again but on his way home.But he under estimated my intelligence because in the course of our discussion,i discovered he has his clothes ready for two days away and i wonder how its still in his booth if he slept at home as claimed but iam not going to have hypertension over him but take the relationship as it goes.God knows i care for him and genuinely love him despite all the constraints.I guess i have to overlook some things and just concentrate on how to make him happy when he is with me and not to bother myself over what is beyond my control-its really a man's world.

Thursday, June 22, 2006

He called me five minutes ago to say he will come to my place later and probably stay with me for the night so that we can have chance to talk and for me to know that iam special to him-special indeed.Iam going to show him Mistress Revolt 2 so that he can know that he can not just toy with my heart anyhow,imagine that nerve.Men are just special breeds who like to have their cake and also eat it,this is someone that will be frowning when he sees my male friends and to even receive calls from them on my phone is a trouble.He is so posesive and jealous despite the fact that my position in his life is defined and in secrecy.I can not belief that i could be so rattle like this as i always tell my friends who fight their husband girlfriend that they behave immaturely and should be calm afterall the girls are just university girls who need money to maintain themselves but this woman own bothers me because she is matured with heavy purse and i dont want her to displace me.
Life is just an irony,I had an official dinner with some clients yesterday which made me stay late outside my home .On my way going home,I spotted my man car parked in a residential house in Victoria Island and was just wondering what his car might be doing there at that hour and he had earlier called to say he had to go to abuja to meet their foreign partners.I called him immediately to ask of his whereabout and whether the driver had drop his car at home or he will just park it at the office and was surprise to hear him say he parked it at the Airport and i just smile. I remember immediately that his woman friend live on the same street and at that number where i saw the car. Idrove home with annoyance as the man was suppose to be in my place before he called that he had to get to Abuja immediately and I couldnt stomach the nonsense and just send him a text that he should enjoy himself at the place where he parked his car and that two can play a game.I woke up to receive his text saying he will see me later today to sort things out and that he love me-imagine that

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

Its quite funny to me too what i could do over another woman husband as iam just a permanent tenant.I asked my friend at the network she uses to get me her details and funnily i discovered she is my man extra-men are something else.They make you feel so loved that you will be secured with the assurances but its all for the moment.I always have the mind that his wife and i are just too okay for him considering his schedules and lack of time for himself and us.Ilearnt from my source that she is one of the company suppliers and a single mother of three and have enough cash and clout so she just need him for the company he can provide and everything that goes with it but i cant imagine the right she has to call my line and leave a nasty message.

Friday, June 16, 2006

I got home yesterday to receive a nasty message on my phone"leave my man alone" and i was like who could do this to me,from the little Reuby told me about his wife-she is not that type that will do anything to embarrass her husband.I could not just think straight,had to call him to brief him and he just said i should disregard it and maybe somebody is pulling a joke on me but iam still skeptical about it.I tried calling the number and its just going into fax.I promise myself to solve the pussle and decided to call the number as early as i wake up,which i did and a lady picked it and when i told her my mission,she just hissed and say wrong number-imagine that attitude early in the morning and that trigger something in me.She has woken up the cobra and must see its fight-i must find out her identity and luckily for me,i know people at the network she is using.

Tuesday, June 13, 2006

My day was almost spoilt yesterday due to jealousy by my man.He called me around 6pm to informed me that he will rather picked me up from office instead of using my driver to get to sheraton as they are necessary devil who will spread all our stories round and should be ready with my things for 6.30pm. Exactly 6.30,an old flame came in to say hello and wish me happy birthday with a card and gift which could be suspicious and was just hugging him for his thoughtfulness when my secrectary escort in my man and i just fell like the ground should swallow me but quickly compose myself.I introduced them and just notice that my man was just quiet and the other man was just blabbing on old things which connect us without caring who the man is-i now know he came for a sort of reunion and i just dismiss him.I think he got the message and just left.
My dear was just moody till we got to sheraton-imagine men selfishness.We eventually made up and promise him never to let that happen agan,how i will know somebody will surface from no where to greet me i dont know.Well we had a nice time and wish i could extend the hours to 48hrs per day.Love was really in the air and i love every moment of it,he was such a fantastic---

Monday, June 12, 2006

Iam really having fun today and just showing off the goodness of God in me.Imagine all those guys and babes in my unit that were looking at me with lots of pity last year now pretending as if they are happy for me.Iam sure that will still gossip later than iam a glorify harlot but thats their business because those ladies are dreaming of being in my place and the men envy whoever is making me happy. I deliberately call my love at interval for them to know i now have somebody in my life and off course they eavedrop on my conversation,not knowing iam doing it for effect.Whether i be wife or mistress,i can not ask for more than iam getting and to top it- to somebody most girls will die for.I bought them chinese as their lunch for my bithday and they must know it cost money to feed them
Iam a year older today and i have every cause to rejoice as i could remeber last year when i was downcast and sad that i clock 40 and have nobody by my side to celebrate the day.Today my heart is full of gratitude to God for all his mercies and for making way where the enemy thinks there is no way.What else can i say than thank you jesus,iam alive with good health and have a loving family behind me and my one and only right by my side.It does not matter that paper did not bind us together but what we share is priceless.Reuby called as early as 2am to wish me happy birthday and apologise for his unavoidable absence as promise on saturday and as i predicted the wifey imprison him by her side.He promise to be by my door as soon as he can leave home and i felt better with his soothing words.

As i was just stepping out from bathroom,my lord just knocked and you can imagine the scenerio.I quickly rush into his waiting hands and belif me, it was heavenly and i love every bit of it.I just wish today is saturday and we can do a lot of tricks together. I had to quickly refreshen up to get set for office and he called his driver to bring in my cake and flower-the guy is damn so romantic and handed me an envelop as gift and also ask me to prepared for a celebration at sheraton hotel later for two of us and that means we are sleeping there,i quickly pack my office cloth for next day.Behold as i open the envelop-i got a handsome cheque that guarrantee my holiday this summer.
Iam a year older today and iam going to count my blessings and thank God for perfecting his work in my life.My love eventually called me midnight today to wish me happy birthday and also to make arrangement for the day.What else can i ask for-i have a family who cares about me and my love who is there for me despite the limit and iam enjoying good health and very stable career.

Before i left home for work,Reuby was with me to give me birthday kiss and cake with a flower-the guy knows how to trip a babe and who am i to refuse such a loving gesture.We quicky had morning one and you trust how it could be in the raining season as it rained overnight.He gave me a big cheque to buy something for myself and have a little do for my colleagues and also,for me to make arrangemet for sleeping over at sheraton and get my clothes with me for office tomorrow.This guy is making me feel like a teenager falling in love for the first time.

Sunday, June 11, 2006

I was just in door throughout yesterday expecting the love of my life,he called me very late on friday to tell me he will come and spend the day with me.I woke up with my heart full of love and in expectation of the nice time he will give me and trust me to reciprocate.I make sure the whole house is throughly clean and nice perfume smelling all over and with his best food prepared.I wore the naughty knicker i brought from my trip abroad and was really looking good to eat with the food.You can imagine my dissappointment when he did not show up at all and could not even call to say something.Iam sure his wife must have blocked all his tactics and came up with her game plan,thats one of the problem in dating other woman husband-you cant see him at your own time and plan anything around him.I was just upset throughout yesterday and slept off watching movies.

Friday, June 09, 2006

Life of a mistress is not so exciting as the wives thinks though you get more goodies and probably extra comfort.Iam beginning to see why a woman need a permanent companion,somebody to talk to and share your dreams and aspirations and of course warm you up during those cold days.Though Reuby come for an hour ot two twice during the week and as time permit during weekend as he is a busy person but he calls regular and ensure that am well proctected from who knows- the gigolos who might want to take advantage of me(funny?).He is just a smooth operator and i wonder how he does it, with his tight schedules and running two homes.Despite my position with him,i wouldnt trade him for any other man-he allow me to be myself and encourage me to go beyond the sky whereas a younger man might feel threaten and have complex like some of my friends complained about their hussy.
I remember my chance meeting with Reuby in one of this seminar my company sent me in South Africa and he was also there as a key speaker and just came to my table during coffee break to say hi and know whether iam a Nigeria judging from my name which i politely answered.We later met again at the hotel lobby and he requsted for a date which i politely declined.We met again in the plane on our way back and it was as we are just destined to meet and i just loosen up and enjoy his company and he was such a humourous person and highly intelligent and that really tripped me in a man.Before we parted at the airport,he gave me his card and asked me to feel free to call me and hope i will be free to answer his call and be friend with him as he noticed that i was kind of uptight with him.

Since then we have been good friends and he calls me regularly which i do as well as i love his spirit and we operate on the same intellectual level. He finally lay his card on the table on my 40th birthday to be his woman but with strings attached.He will take care of me-financial and physically but no marriage and be mother of his kids and that proper arrangement for my upkeep and general well being will be provided.To summarise it-he want to eat his cake and have it,no contact with his legal wife and our affair must never be publicise and i just told him to give me a week to think about it.Of course,I added one to one and arrive at two i.e better to be with somebody who cares for me and take care of me than to be label an old maid and in any case,he is being a mentor to me careerwise since i know him-by the way,he is the owner of one of this newly licence Telecom

Thursday, June 08, 2006

Most people refer to me as a kept woman but who cares what you call me,he who wear the shoes knows where it pitches.Iam over 40 with a good job,sound education and good pedigree but could not get a man to call my own and my society see me as irresponsible because am not married or attached to a man.It does not matter that i have MBA from one of the best school in Africa and have a good career as the Company Secretary of a multi-national company-nobody give me credit but makes me feel worthless without the prefix"mrs" somebody. My society(Africa) do not forgive a woman who have everything going in her life without a man no matter her achievement or recognition.

When i clocked 40 years,I just decided to take the bull by the horn by getting myself involved with an old admirer who really have been pestering my life for a long while.He is really someone i could have considered ordinarily but he belong to another woman which my upbringing could not permit me to do but now that my tickling clock is running out,i needed to review my life and make adjustment and make do with what i can get from life.You need not preach to me or crucify me since i have a life to live