I got the shock of my life yesterday,my oga wife saw her husband's car in my compound on her way somewhere around my area and decided to find out what the car was doing there.He is out of town and had called earlier in the day that his driver will dropped some things in my house and not to sound impolite,i just said okay and it landed me into wahala.I just heard an argument outside and what wondering what happened and immediate i opened my door and saw her,i knew there will be trouble.

I politely greeted her and asked her what i could do for her and she just said excuse me,what do you mean?I saw my husband's car here and i have every right to ask questions and who are you by the way.The driver came out at that point to tell her that his oga asked him to dropped a message with me for my boss and she just screamed"boss ko trailer ni"and how do you know her house and why through her when you can go straight to the boss.Anyway,we shall see when he comes back and i hope its not the items i got for him for his friend's daughter-man can lie!.She just switched back to me and said listen and listen good,nobody and i mean nobody can take my husband and you better look elsewhere or else -------i did not even wait to hear it all as neighbours were already wondering what was happening.

I was really boilling inside as i did not solicit for the gift and i have tried to tell the man to leave me indirectly but is adarmant.This is same woman that he was saying she is gentle and can never come and challenge me and see the drama she is performing over car and not even seeing the man with me.I called my girlfriend to tell her what happened and she was like hope she did not do anything nasty and i better come down to her place and i told her she shouldnt worry,ten of her type cannot rattle me if i mean business.As i was justl getting over that my friend's call came in and i just snapped on him to leave me alone and dropped-two of a kind.

My mother finally left Saturday morning with an understanding between us, I agreed with her point but she has to give me time and continue to pray for me. As we were about driving out, my oga drove in; he said he was coming from gym and decided to kill two birds with one stone and since Muhammad refused to go to mountain, mountain has decided to come to Muhammad. I just did not know what to say and was just confused-my mother spoke at length on my relationship with him and how she will be glad if I leave him for his wife and since he is not even ready to marry me but make me a kept woman, I should forget him and I assured her that we are now friends and hardly see except occasional call if necessary.

To add salt to the injury, the man called my mother-my in-law and she just politely answered him and was just frowning her face. I greeted him casually and told him we were just on our way out to drop my mother and the guy just pretended as if he didn’t know he was making me uncomfortable by his presence so early. He told my mother he would gladly do that on his way and that he had the intention of calling from my place to greet the family and report my behavior to them-imagine that gut.He eventually dropped my mummy.

My friend called from Dubai that day to say hello and also to ask me to do something for him but wasn’t comfortable discussing anything personal with him because my mother was there and iam too sure she was all ear and just pretended as if she was doing other things. I was just answering yes and no, which wasn’t okay for the discussion but I didn’t want her to add up things from my response. After about five minutes, I guess he knew I wasn’t communicating properly and now asked if he should call next day, which I gladly said yes. I just went straight to bed thereafter, as I knew she would want to hear something, which I wasn’t ready to go into.

As soon as I got in yesterday, my dear mummy face was just up and that means she was ready to face me and had to bring mine down as we cant continue to be playing hide and seek game and since we never really sat down to talk like mother and daughter since she arrived, I owed her that. I started playing my good girl by asking her if we could go for a drink at Ikoyi Club, which she rejected instantly, ordinarily, she will love that. She said she is in my house to relax and spend quality time with me and realised that I was avoiding her because I feel she is intruding into my affairs but she mean well and that she will not leave me alone until I do the proper thing i.e.get married and have kids. That she understand that we cant all have it same way but civilization can not change a woman role in Africa setting and no matter who iam, its nothing if I don’t have a crown-okay now and she just started crying.

I allowed her to cry if that will relief her and had to say something not to look insensitive. I told her I appreciate their effort but I cannot kill myself and since she does not want to hear anything about my oga (na blackmail) and her arrangee friend son situation is not clear to me and yet to get any other person, they should continue to pray and that iam positive this year will be my year !

I got this from yankeenaijachick blog and i love it and decided to share it with my love ones:

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't act stupid because you think you are irresistible.

Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.

Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough and know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself,your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate.

Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr/Mrs Right. Don't throw your lifeaway on absolutely Mr Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won. Only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of whatyoucan be. Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid ofdestructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on
duty.

Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you. You
light up your life. You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.

It is true that life does not get easier with age. It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid.
Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in your God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!

Great point for 2007...........if you make a mistake the first time , it's not your fault. The second time, it's your fault. The third time , you are a fool.

I got home last night only to see my mother at the gate and was like why is she behaving like motherhen.Iam an adult and for Christ sake i don’t need all that,I deserve to have my space but welcome her all the same.She says she misses me and since we never had time together during the festive period,she decided to come and spend three days with me and i was like yee this woman has come again but will not give her the face to start all that her talk-I need to be left alone to chart the course of my life.She came with her special delicacies that can last till God knows when,since i hardly take heavy food in the night but i thank her for the gesture.

After she rested,she stated her discussions with all the owambe she attended with her friends-who and who got wedded as if thats was the only thing that happened in my absence and pray that this year will be mine and she will see all her grandchildren before she goes beyond as if she already know when she will die.I refused to show interest and she progressed by asking after my oga as if she cares and i said i guess he is fine since i know that will suit her and it means i have not seen him for a while.If she think she is smart,i will play along with her.She tactically asked after my friend and that the mother said we were in UK together and that i just stepped out when he called her-imagine that nonsense.I just told her i needed to rest as i wasnt feeling well and have an appointment with a client somewhere very early next day-What a narrow escape from her interview and as i was just jubilating over that,my phone rang and guess who called?

Its nice to be back to my country where i dont have to dress up like babasuwe to survive the weather and still work my ass to pick bills no matter the weather situation,i really miss everything-the hussling and bustling of Lagos.Yes no light,no good road and name whatever despite all the lapses,no place compare to my Niger- i love my country.

I got in sunday night without my friend as he has some business to tidy up in Dubai and was surprise to see my oga at the airport as i intended to get a cab home.I did not want to start the new year with argument or unnecessay imterogation,i just pretended as if i was expecting him and gave him a hug.You can never tell with this men,one minute they are all over you and in another moment,they care less.My new year resolution is not to push issue and allow things to take care of itself since iam not married to either of them,i owe them no loyalty.As soon as he dropped me at home and offered him a drink and i noticed he was too relaxed and guess probably has other expectations,i just ptetended as if i was still jetlagged and all he was saying,i was just saying heeeeeeeeeee,heeeeeeee

This year is my year and even if i ended up being somebody extra,i want to be convince iam happy with the arrangement not as a last resort.I have everything to thank God for in my life,husband or no husband-yes its good to be married to somebody but i think iam not going to stress myself again,the will of God in my life will be done.I met a lady while i was away,she is in her 50s and looking 30s and not married but contented with her life and she is still optimistic that her own will come and if its doesnt,she is still herself and make her no less happy and i knew immediately why she is looking so good at her unbelievable age.She made me understand that i should never let pressure drove me to what i will regret later,that its better to be happily single than unhappily married and thats my term for the year.

The activities in the office is low and no stress for now as business is yet to pick up and we are all still in that new year mood.My friend has lot of gist for me on happenings while i was away but need to tidied up my table before i can have time for that.My mother called to say welcome this afternoon and of course to do amebo but i delibarately didnt say anything personal to her as i know she called not just to say hello but to get update on my life.

I have been on the move for some days now with my restless cousin and had no chance to update my diary.This year will be a good year for all of us and may God direct our leader to have a rethink in the way they direct the affair of our dear country.This country is blessed with material and human resources and we need to just make concrete effort individually and collectively to make things work,Government alone can not do it.

Any time iam outside the country,my heart bleeds when i see how system works and the allegiance of the citizens to their country and my country who is suppose to be giant in Africa is just going down in all respect.My fellow nigers who have no reason to be abroad are doing dirty jobs to survive in UK and elsewhere,i blame our Government who can not provide enabling environment to become anything you want to,able bodied men are being wasted when they should be contributing to the economy of their country.

How time flies,my leave will be over by Monday and iam expected back on seat.Iam coming back back with lots of energy and love written all over my face and guess what my ego was boosted with all the marchmaking and toasting i got from yonder and God,men will always be men anywhere in the world,i always think skirt chasing is a Niger thing but was suprise with the offer from left,right and centre and even married ones too are not left out of the chase and i wonder why they cant get a wife from the availables there.London na real Lagos with just a little difference,so much gragra and posing among Nigers and i wouldnt mention the under G going on there-Men and Women matter no go spoil the world

London is damn so cold,i cant wait to get back to my base.No matter how bad we painted our country-Nigeria,its still the best despite all the shortcomings and no place like home.I had the intention of staying in my sister's place in SW and my friend to stay with his friend somewhere around as it will be economical and at the same time, gist with my family and him with his friends but we change our mind on sunday and decided to stay in the hotel since we are adult and no point pretending .

Since that sunday,we have been comforting each other from the effect of the cold.

I will be off tonight to London for the Xmas and New year celebration as my boss eventually granted me two week off and the gist of it all is ,iam going with my friend-thats a long story which i will document when i get back.I wish you all merry xmas and prosperous new year and hopeful and wishfully,my dreams come true next year-not to continue to be extra bag-cheerio

Just like yesterday, another XMAS & NEW YEAR is here. We have every reason to thank God for HIS Mercies. Its really been a chequered year i guess,but still thank HIM,because you are alive!

Yes,i know you expected God to have done XYZ, but are you sure he has not done it?

For a Woman who took in June 2006,the physical evidence SHALL ONLY be in 2007,except it be premature,but God really and truly prepares and matures us for HIS Blessing. She SHALL undoubtedly carry it over to 2007.

Does that mean God hasn't answered her?

Even in Business Financials,we do have balance BROUGHT FORWARD or CARRIED OVER!!!

THINK OF IT,AS YOU DEVOUR THE CHICKEN!!!

Best Regards
Sisi

I never knew that incidence could affect me so much,this was a guy i knew from youth and the parent are like mine and i was beginning to like him and was even ready to dump my good old dear despite all he has done in my life.Its never be the same with me since that day,i tried to rationalise the whole thing but didnt jell.He was in my house very early on saturday,when my bell rang,i thought its was my vendor but alas na him my face see and despite all my bragado,something melted in my heart and i saw that stress on his face and for a second,i pitied him.

I was confused whether to allowed him in or not as i wasnt sure of myself again as that feeling just surface -i now know why we ladies stucked on to a dead affair-that feeling could be hard to kill like that.I eventually allowed him in and immediately he entered he just fell flat on the floor and was almost weeping for me to give him chance to explain himself and it wasnt what i thought,i couldnt just allowed that-he is a man for christ sake and no matter what-he is still a man and should be respected.I begged him to stand up and that i will give him the audience but hope he is not there to cajole me into something which iam not ready to do.

He now narrated how the wife just surface fron nowhere to say she is in the country to sort out some personal issue and since they are not divorcee yet,she still have a stake in their joint acquistion and that she will be there for a month and i wonder within me what kind of arrangement is that-is either she doesnt want to go through the divorcee again or he is lying to me but i didnt argue or asked any question .When he finished his story,i told him i hold him no grudge and i still see him as my friend and brother which he refused to accept as he said he never want to be that but the man in my life.

Since there is no point in arguing,i just offered him a coffee but God help me,my feeelings for him is still strong and wish he could just stay away from me as i think i ve fallen in love with him-shoooooooooo

My eye see no be small yesterday,i promise my friend to see him sometime during the week when we met at my parent church as we did not go together as he wanted.I decided to surprise him yesterday as i close early and since he is a home person, he hardly goes out after 8pm except his friends are around and need to give them fun .I just drove straight to his house without calling him,when i got there i noticed that the mallam was fidgeting and looking at me somehow without saying anything,i asked for his oga and he just said he dey.

I pressed the bell and behold the wife opened the door and i was shocked but quickly compose myself.She just said can i help you which i said i want to see so so so person and she asked me to come in.I was confused and just sat there in their living room like a dummy,it took a while before he came out and was somehow embarrassed too but he played it well.As soon as he saw me,he just said what a surprise to see you and what are you doing in my area and i understood perfectly the impression he was trying to give the wife.Though i should have called him ahead( in this era of GSM ) but he should have told me his wife is back as i thought we are close enough though i have not been responding to his call in recent time but we saw on sunday and he could have hinted me.I told him i came to see a friend of mine near by and since its been a while we saw and his mummy is always telling me he asked after me,i just decided to drop by and say hello.He just use that opportunity to introduced his wife and that iam his childhood friend and we ve lost contact for long and met sometime ago at the family church and we exchage addresses.

I could not wait for long before i took my leave and i cant still understand why he did not tell me his wife is back.I felt so terrible last night not because he is with his wife but for believing him and allowing myself to get involved.I cried for being a fool though he called me severally but i refused to listen to any tales by moonlight.

December is always a busy month in my office and social commitment too is so much as friends and families can not understand why you can not make their function and it has become a big task to update my diary.My schedule in the office is hectic and weekend is not spared as well, as we always have one function or the other. It a sort of blessing somehow as i have reason not to see my friends or what do i call them now though i miss them in a way but i need to make a decision no matter how hard it could be.I want to start the new year with a definate plan and be focussed as i dont need all that stress at my age and level.Both have been calling me as if they are competing and iam not finding the whole thing funny again,iam not cut out for all that.The amount of energy involved in two timing is something else and i hate scandal of any sort-you can imagine what will happen if by chance they met in my house again,the tension will be too much for me to bear.

I have a function to attend in my parent church tomorrow as one of our family friend's daughter is getting married and my friend want us to go there together but i dont want to give wrong impression to the church member and i want to go as they have been wonderful to my family but how do i go about it as my friend will definately be there as he is related to them and what do i tell him?

After reading all the reactions I got from my readers, I pondered over them and could not but agreed with their submission. I know iam unique in the sight of God and there is a man for every woman and all I need to do is wait for my own and he will surely come at the appointed time but why are we having so many unmarried ladies despite having good upbringing, cultured and all that and dont forget the ratio of women to men based on population figure? Don’t give me that excuse of how did they spend their youth as I know quite a lot of ladies in my undergraduate days who are reckless and more or less glorified prostitutes and now they are laughing at us-the bookwormers and born again but today they are in their husband house,they are even the ones who gloat over our situation now.

I do not want to shortchange myself but he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches. I would love to date a young eligible bachelor but where I can not get one and the ones i met are out to swindle me and now get somebody who belief in me and care for me-should I say No because I don’t want the world to see me as husband snatcher and don’t forget we are in Africa where polygamy is part of the culture whether we like it or not,right it look bad to the wife but what about my feelings and dont forget some women make it their choice to be second wife, what do we say to that. I am not justifying my action but we must accept the fact that we all can be in the same boat.

Another reaction;

Lady, I suggest you get a life and leave other women’s men alone. If you don’t see any man that will love you for the unique person that you’re, love other people by contributing to your community one way or another with your time to make other people happy (stop being selfish for a while and think about other people’s happiness and feelings), because the more you give, the more you’ll receive in return, (rubbish in, rubbish out, period) who knows, by so doing, you’ll be found by, or you’ll find the single, unmarried “love of your life”, why do you want to steal from another woman’s pot of affection, and eat smelly and foul crumbs from other women’s table like a rejected stray dog?

Here are a lists of things I propose you do with your precious time instead of goofing around with Mr. No-Good-Losers who are out to use you and dump you for the next hot pant:

1. Since you live in Nigeria, find the closest orphanage and visit them on weekends and ask them for ways you can help around with the children there. Play with the children and help feed, cloth and read stories to them. Take some of them out with your car (I’m sure they will love that very much) and visit the library with them and read with them.

2. Visit your local church (one of integrity, not all this cockroach churches all over the place in that country) and find out from the pastors what you can do to help them around the church.

3. If you’re not the churchy kind, act as a mentor to the boys and girls in your neighborhood, you can mentor them to be better leaders of tomorrow. Take the girls out shopping, help with their homework or even give them some minor homework of your own, arrange sleepover parties, talk with them about issues and current affairs. The boys too can be mentored by you, take them out to lunch sometimes, help with their school work, etc all these with the permission of their parents of course, and please try to keep your eyes of their fathers (I know some fathers can be hunks, but be a good girl).

4. These are a few suggestions to start with, you can come up with more if you really think about it and consider…

I got this from a reader and it really touch my heart and I want to share it with you all:

Please, surround yourself with positive people. Stand for what you know is right. Walk with your head held high because you are beautifully made. You have a career. You can do this. Call these loser men and tell them it's over. If you don't trust yourself to do it in person, do it over the phone or get a friend to go with you. That's what friends are for. You don't want a friend that does not let you know when you fall. A friend that sees no wrong in what you do is not a friend. But you don't want a friend who derives pleasure in putting you down either. Worst case scenario; tell these men you'll tell their wives if they mess with you. Stand by it. Change your numbers if you have to. Relocate if you have to. Go to the gym when you feel bored. Hang out with good friends and/or families. Read books. Travel. Help out in orphanage. Write a book. Cook. Before you know it, you'll be stronger and more focused. Note that I did not suggest “Go to Church”. Pastors are often very manipulative people. It’s no telling who is of God.

I believe that the best way to avoid falling into the wrong hands is by first being in touch with oneself. Know who you are inside and outside as you would your best novel. Develop your self-esteem. You can read your bible while you are doing this. Pray fervently within the walls of your home and ask God to lead you to the right church and people. Once you’ve strengthened the mind and body, go to Church. Church is about fellowshipping with others, but must people turn it into a religious battle ground were the richest, greediest, most manipulative... survive. Go to church to fellowship but refuse to be told by a man what God’s plan is for your life. You can pray together with others and for others, but it is you that know where the shoe hurts and how best to ask for the ointment you need from God. He is your God and can speak to you once you’ve cleansed you body and soul. He did not need a middle man to create you so why should he need one to orchestrate your steps? Don’t fall prey to a power-hungry man playing God as we see around very often. The right man can then see the person you really are. These men have their lives (warped as it is). Refuse to let them hinder you from getting a darn good life.

I am sure there are people who love and care about you, but you need to let them see why they love you; the good person you are. Believe me, it takes a good person to write what you write especially your last entry. Bad people don’t reflect on what they do. I wish you the very best as you begin this journey. Remember, the wrong choices you’ve made do not define you. But the mistakes you refuse to correct are going to put a dent in your future. That’s just how life is. It is well, my sister. I look forward to reading your testimony. Lest I forget, please, do not buy into the “I don’t need a man for anything” idea that is beginning to suck into our culture as well. Yes, I am an advocate of being happily single. But I also know the good things that come with being with that right one. It’s not going to be perfect, no. You sef are not perfect so why should you expect a perfect man. But a good man should not have to cost more than he has to offer; financially, emotionally, psychologically, esteem-wise… While I believe no one should put their lives on hold while searching for the right man (live your single life and be happy in your state with all you’ve achieved), but also be realistic enough to recognize whether or not you want a man. If you decide you do want one, rather than settle for stolen moments, weigh your choices and select the best who is not going to require you sacrificing yourself. You going to have to let go of some independence and compromise a little, but you should never have to compromise your dignity and self. ***************

Since i made my diary public,i have received quite a lot of response-some especially from my married friends are bad and you could feel their anger,they called me unprintable names but i do understand them and i guess i could do same if iam in their positions.While most men and i think single ladies too see it differently which i can understand as well and i really appreciate all your comments.I must not forget to thank guys who write me beautiful poems and letters to express their feeling and how they could give me better deal than iam getting without knowing me and of course,women who volunteer to link me up with their brothers and uncles -I thank you all and appreciate all your support.

I was able to do some soul searching as advised over the weekend to see where i have gone wrong and how i ended up being an old lady.I could remember my parent warning after my school certificate that education is the key and with the right education and job-man will crawl at your feet(old school story) and dont let any man derail your future and i took it too far.As soon as i got to the university,i became a triangular student and the only outside dealing was church and you can trust that they will feed you all the righteous things a christian should do and i wasnt into men till i got to Graduate school and it was disasterous as i had all the old school rules and could not fit in.Before i knew it,every man i come in contact with see me as difficult as i didnt have that feminine touch.I tried to change but you know old habit die hard and age is not on my side and guys are intimidated by my profile and the few that show interest are out to gain something and i got scared as some see me as their meal ticket which i refused to be as i work hard to get to where iam.I would not blame my parent as they want the best for me but i think parent need to teach their kids more than that because realities of today goes more than having education.

I get so busy these days that by the time i get home,i just want to bath and sleep.There are too many things to attend to in the office and couple with the pressure of the coming festive period as we have to roll out a lot of packages and advert for the promotions and i have to look at the legal aspect.I hardly leave office before 9m and my friend have been quite supportive as he picks me up late in the night and in the morning the driver bring the car to my house. I surely know that my friend is doing all that to protect his territory,men are just the same-ever possessive.

My oga called me yesterday to informed me he is back and will be coming to my house later in the day and i told him i worked late and we should probably see over weekend and that got him upset,he just asked me point blank if iam tired of him and i should be bold enough to say it out instead of giving him cold treatment.God knows i tried to avoid this confrontation and i intend to be civil about it all and do not intend to deliberately hurt him because he is always there to encourage,support and make me belief in myself in those lonely period.I just told him that i will call him when he is in a better mood as iam under stress as well.Surpringly,he sent his driver not more than 15 mins we spoke to bring me to Ikoyi Club and luckily for me,my friend was waiting down stairs and they did not know eachother,so i quickly asked him to go and will join him later as i needed to see my pastor somewhere around before coming.After we left my office,i tried to look for a way to see him but it was as if my guy knows i was up to something-he just drove straight to his house and i ended up sleeping there and had to switched off my phone.

I woke up the following day i.e sunday to find myself cuddled up in bed with him and i was somehow shy as i had no plan of starting something then-its probably the effect of the drink we had or i tempted myself by allowing that closeness and wondered what happened after the bridge have been crossed.He was just excited and darling me and whispering sweet words into my ear.I wanted us to leave for Lagos on time so that i can have time to organise myself for the week but he wanted us to use that opportunity to unwind before getting back to the hustle of Lagos.We had a stop at Shagamu to see a friend of his who just relocated back to the country and was surprise when we got there that the guy already know my name and was even talking to me as if we ve met somewhere before-so guys too discussed those things with their friends.W e really had fun there as the guy's wife treated us to all kind of local delicacies watered down with original palmwine,life in the countryside can be relaxing and cool.

We eventually left them in the evening and he was like we should go to my house and picked my things and go to his house and from there he can drop me in the office the next day but i disagree as i no want him to get everything at a go-small small.Since then its being loving loving though iam not complaining but at the expense of my oga as i never have time for him since he got back from his trip and i even avoid his calls.God should give me the wisdom to handle this thing maturely and in a very polite way as i hate to hurt somebody but now its inevitable but what if------

I really enjoyed my weekend.We left Lagos early for Warri to avoid hold up on Lagos-Ibadan Expressway but suprisingly the journey was smooth except the Eastern axis that was horrible. We got there around mid-day and just drove straight to the the hotel already booked for him before joining the celebrant and i seized the opporunity to touch up . The after church reception was grand as the guy is one of their leading political figure and has cash to throw around,there are more than enough food and drinks to go round and imaging giving out a set of dinner set as souvenirs -this politicians are something else.I met quite a lot of his friends and their wives but i could see that some of the wives were looking at me somehow and others were polite.The guys were okay and trust them,they tried to make me feel welcome though i was just introduced as his friend but i can notice their mischievious look and some that came without their wife were trying to tresspass.When he noticed that a particular guy was getting too friendly with me,he just asked us to leave and i noticed he was kind of jealous.

On our way to the hotel,he asked me why i was just bent on putting a distance between us,that he mean well and can not hurt me in anyway.I guess he said this because i told him i needed a room to myself and he was like what will he do with the suite and he can stay in the outer room and if i think he want to eat me but at the end of the day,we stayed together after all my stress.We later drove round warri as he knows his way and ended up in a nice joint ,we stayed there till mid-night and by the time we got to the hotel,i was tired and could not make any argument on sleeping arrangement again and to be sincerely,i needed his company as well.As soon as we got in,we just looked at eachother and you can imagine what happened.