I got this from a reader and it really touch my heart and I want to share it with you all:

Please, surround yourself with positive people. Stand for what you know is right. Walk with your head held high because you are beautifully made. You have a career. You can do this. Call these loser men and tell them it's over. If you don't trust yourself to do it in person, do it over the phone or get a friend to go with you. That's what friends are for. You don't want a friend that does not let you know when you fall. A friend that sees no wrong in what you do is not a friend. But you don't want a friend who derives pleasure in putting you down either. Worst case scenario; tell these men you'll tell their wives if they mess with you. Stand by it. Change your numbers if you have to. Relocate if you have to. Go to the gym when you feel bored. Hang out with good friends and/or families. Read books. Travel. Help out in orphanage. Write a book. Cook. Before you know it, you'll be stronger and more focused. Note that I did not suggest “Go to Church”. Pastors are often very manipulative people. It’s no telling who is of God.

I believe that the best way to avoid falling into the wrong hands is by first being in touch with oneself. Know who you are inside and outside as you would your best novel. Develop your self-esteem. You can read your bible while you are doing this. Pray fervently within the walls of your home and ask God to lead you to the right church and people. Once you’ve strengthened the mind and body, go to Church. Church is about fellowshipping with others, but must people turn it into a religious battle ground were the richest, greediest, most manipulative... survive. Go to church to fellowship but refuse to be told by a man what God’s plan is for your life. You can pray together with others and for others, but it is you that know where the shoe hurts and how best to ask for the ointment you need from God. He is your God and can speak to you once you’ve cleansed you body and soul. He did not need a middle man to create you so why should he need one to orchestrate your steps? Don’t fall prey to a power-hungry man playing God as we see around very often. The right man can then see the person you really are. These men have their lives (warped as it is). Refuse to let them hinder you from getting a darn good life.

I am sure there are people who love and care about you, but you need to let them see why they love you; the good person you are. Believe me, it takes a good person to write what you write especially your last entry. Bad people don’t reflect on what they do. I wish you the very best as you begin this journey. Remember, the wrong choices you’ve made do not define you. But the mistakes you refuse to correct are going to put a dent in your future. That’s just how life is. It is well, my sister. I look forward to reading your testimony. Lest I forget, please, do not buy into the “I don’t need a man for anything” idea that is beginning to suck into our culture as well. Yes, I am an advocate of being happily single. But I also know the good things that come with being with that right one. It’s not going to be perfect, no. You sef are not perfect so why should you expect a perfect man. But a good man should not have to cost more than he has to offer; financially, emotionally, psychologically, esteem-wise… While I believe no one should put their lives on hold while searching for the right man (live your single life and be happy in your state with all you’ve achieved), but also be realistic enough to recognize whether or not you want a man. If you decide you do want one, rather than settle for stolen moments, weigh your choices and select the best who is not going to require you sacrificing yourself. You going to have to let go of some independence and compromise a little, but you should never have to compromise your dignity and self. ***************