I was bored at home yesterday night and decided to read funmi iyanda blog and saw this and what else can i say than http://fiyanda.blogspot.com/2006/11/between-who-is-and-who-could-have-been.html we Africans need to change our orientation and the way we see matured ladies.We need to be supported and encourage in our various endeavours, not to make us feel worthless without a man.I give kudos to her for standing up when it matters,we all want a man but not at all cost.I know a friend who because of pressure got married to somebody not compatible with her but to just bear his name and today she is trapped in a loveless marriage and this is somebody who we all look up to in our university days as somebody who is going to make us all proud in the future.All her dreams and aspirations are buried as her man belief that the only honour a woman need is to have a man as her crown and she should forget about being a superstar as he alone want to be heard and one superstar is more than enough in his family and that person should surely be him,not minding that our friend is more brilliant and articulate than him.